Servant or master?
For many years we have formed a negative attitude toward money. Parents, as the baton passed on this attitude to their children. Of the negative views of conclusions were drawn: the big money associated with crime, but to be rich indecent and dangerous. It is rooted in the minds of the masses. Wary and distrustful attitude. Apposite, however. But ... in fact, everything looks different than it really is.
Attitudes towards money
In choosing their attitude, we can only rely on existing in the surrounding culture examples and samples. And the closer we are peering into the palette of these examples, the wider and more diverse it is. We can see the people did not think about money and, nevertheless, manage to solve their everyday problems due to the fact that their deep passion for his work in the long run is estimated and paid by others. We can see the other, all life and all the thoughts which seemed to only focus on how to stretch their last ruble on dozens of urgent concern, thus saving on what can and put aside while a pretty penny for a rainy day. This version of the psychology of poverty "does not disappear even when the hands get large and even very big money. There are people who take pride in the fact that the money they do not stay long, and they are capable of at the moment to squander any money themselves and then sincerely wondering where all this is become of, and how fast is over. There are people for whom, according to F. Taylor, "every penny it seems the size of a wagon wheel" samples desperate avarice and stinginess, like the notorious Uncle Scrooge. For some money - a source of pride for some - a symbol of possession, something to be proud of how we can be proud possession of a beautiful woman, for someone - a sin and filth, for someone - a constant source of anguish and envy. Catch? They themselves remain unchanged ... Other only relevant to them ... To become even clearer, here is another example. Well, let's say, a bottle of vodka ... That's Imagine on the table, a bottle of vodka ... What do you personally, for myself, think about this? Someone painful frown, remembering the holidays, someone's eyes shine, someone just shrug his shoulders: well worth their cost, but what a joke? That's just funny, and. For.
Illustration
"Money is good servant but a bad master" Bacon
In the Gospel of Matthew tells about a rich young man who once came to Jesus and said, "Good Master, what must I do to have eternal life" Jesus said to him: "If you want eternal life, keep the commandments." (While he says nothing about money.) What the rich young man said to him: "All these have I kept from my youth. What do I still lack." Since he was not satisfied and asked the second question, Jesus said to him: "If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven." For boys this was unsustainable.
Remember that Jesus told his disciples? "Verily I say unto you, that rich man shall hardly enter into the kingdom of heaven. And yet I say unto you: easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
Many reading these words, imagine a tiny hole in the eye of the needle, and compare it with a huge camel. And the first thing they come to mind is the word "impossible". Mentally, they repeat the words: "A rich man can enter into the kingdom of God."
"Eye of the Needle" has no relation to the sewing needle. So called the narrow entrance to the city. Camel to pass through it could not - only small cattle, which dragged the shepherds after sunset, when the gates closed at night
In the Bible, but stressed attitude to money. And not only in this case. Remember?
"The love of money - the evil"
"The root of all evil - greed for money"
"Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap, nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. You are not much better than them"
But consider these words unblindfolded look. What is it? The Attitude! Not bad money, and love for them. In the Greek language has several words which are translated into our language one word: love. Here they are: epitumeo (epitumeo), mania (mania), eros (eros), storge (storge), Philyaw (phileo) and agape (agape). Different words and different meanings. Some of you all know, some may not all know each other. But today we are interested in only one of them, translated into Russian, as love. You probably already guessed that we are talking about the word mania. Mania can hardly be called love in the fullest sense of the word. It's manic desire for anyone or anything. From the biblical point of view, this love is idolatry, since the idolized person or thing, attachment to which a person experiences, obsessive love-manieyu. The Greeks regarded this kind of love as the whimsical touch of Greek gods, because after that touch people began to behave irrationally. The modern word "lunatic" comes from the Greek word "mania" and is the best describes the rights possessed by a mania. This word and is used in the above texts, the Bible.
Servant or master?
Then what should be treated to the money that they were and that there is no quarrel with the brains?
I think that the majority still not going to argue that the money is needed.
There money is really valuable property: they give us the opportunity to overcome the complexities of life and freedom of action. So in that sense they need and simply needed, and they should strive, as a liberating force you. For freedom, devoid of tangible reinforcement, narrowed to a framework cruel necessity. And the financial trouble is almost always the cause of emotional discomfort. Take the example of Dostoevsky: a diary of his wife stated that the writer dreamed of as a great happiness to own a small usadebke, saying that the money would bring him independence. Dostoevsky's life - a fierce struggle almost a piece of bread: even a new pair of shoes for children became a problem for him.
Money can provide you not only external but internal freedom - if you have them, you can choose the lifestyle that you close, to do the deed, which is love. It is often said that health can not be bought. In fact, a few years of life, if you get sick, but you have money, you can still buy. Immediately warn perturbations of type: "Love can not buy!" For lack of money can not buy it, too. Not to be confused with the warm soft - it is another story. So, the money needed. And the task I see only how to deal with the attitudes and adjustment of improper relationship.
Money alone can not change the world and yourself - but they provide opportunities for this. And as you have them operate depends on your value system. Again, look for another subject, such as an ax. With an ax Great Masters Kizhi built ... and Raskolnikov killed the old woman. We'll start screaming that the ax - is evil? Or think about it, that he merely served as a tool in different hands, led by different brains? Just as money. Some people, strong in spirit and heart, build hospitals and churches, organize some charity programs, while others - just live it up and destroy themselves. And do not say that money is to blame for the fact that the man put his life into a ditch. Money act as a magnifying glass - the person becomes visible, like under a microscope: who he is and what it takes, as a man.
We refer in this context, examples of the remarkable research AE Chirikova leaders of Russian business.
"Wealth, - said in an interview with a businessman - a very valuable thing. I was once convinced that the richness of human quality changes for the worse. The level of wealth makes people more callous, more evil. We knew from the literature of that inspire us and talked about the rich, and we got used to it. In practice, I became convinced that this is absurd.
All just the opposite. I can say this about myself and about others. When you have the opportunity, why not make others feel good. It is very important, as the combination of three qualities in a man - wealth, envy and resentment. If the last two are not pronounced, wealth makes you better "
Another view.
"Greed for money, - wrote Ford - the surest way not to make money. But if you serve for the sake of ministry, for the satisfaction given to a sense of rightness of the case, the money themselves appear in abundance. The money would naturally occur as a result of useful activities . Having money is absolutely necessary. But we must not forget at the same time that the purpose of money is not idleness, and the multiplication of useful tools for ministry. "
See? Is - do - have. In this chain there is only one weak link, and it is not money. We can definitely say that the weak link in this chain is located just above the shoulders, above the neck. He and loans, because one of the fundamental principles states: you get only what to believe. Believe that you can not be rich, while remaining honest - you have to pay for their beliefs or dishonesty, or poverty. If you believe you can be rich philanthropist - thank God, you're not the first nor the last.
Correction
We must work on their attitude to money, making them more positive.
Stock up on several sheets of paper, pen. Maybe you will not one day - not bad. But the best deal with that now, not when you will not miss the pension.
Day One
Think of as many statements about your environment (parents, friends) on the subject of money ... Write them down.
Technique
Make the substitution concept, using our example with an ax, for example.
For example
Money corrupts; Axe corrupts (hmm ...)
Money - evil Axe - evil
Money - manure, today there is no tomorrow WHO Axe - manure, and so on ...
If you do not like an ax, use any other object, which can be used for the benefit and harm: bread, for example. The purpose of this exercise - to remove the tension before the word "money" and bring him out of mystical perception on the household level. But do try to avoid the opposite happened, and you do not have to perceive everyday things mystical.
Day Two
Think of a situation where you found it difficult to call prices for their goods
If you do not have to do this, remember a situation where you had to answer questions about desired salary, for example ...
Remember, in what situations you have been uncomfortable talking about money ...
What you do not wish to see you found mercantile ...
How do you feel, giving / taking into debt ...
How do you take out the money given in debt ...
Technique
Make the correction, using the article "Changing the sad experience on our site
Why is this done? The event has already happened and it did not change. But it left an unpleasant aftertaste associated with money. Our task - to change the emotional background of the event. The event we can not change, but we can change the attitude towards him.
Third Day
Psychologist S. Klyuchnikov wrote: "First of all, awareness of their" cash "desires and goals. How much do you want to have money in a month, a year or three, five and ten years as a monthly income? What is the capital you want to put together five or Ten years? less you'll be asking yourself these questions, the farther you from the world of money. Over the years, his psychological practice, I talked to quite a large number of successful businessmen and have never met people who became rich did not put any conscious goal. Money World responds to the call only if it was a deliberate call a purposeful man, clearly knows how much he needs to get and for what period of time. "
Technique
First, determine: what you want, using the article "The Art of goal setting, and then on that basis, the first person write the story of a perfect day. Use only positive statements, omitting the "not" - this is important. Check it out before use. Read it every day several times (4-5) a day.
Conclusion
I'm not saying that the next day you'll see the sky with diamonds. This is only the beginning. There are many books and training on financial literacy, but if you're in the depths of the soul despise money, do not understand their essence, no training will not help you. It always comes back to attitude. There is a parable of the three builders of the temple.
The first is the question: "What are you doing here" replied: "Haul this cursed land." Second on the same occasion said: "Earning money for his family." A third stopped and exclaimed: "I'm building a beautiful temple
Do not take a financial problem as destiny or punishment. Think of it as a sign that you need to change something and not just anywhere but in his attitude. For example, to believe in themselves, to understand their unlimited opportunities and talent, in the end. Learn how to skillfully handle money. We must take care not about how to make or earn more, and what resources we are willing to give people, even if in our work, we think there is nothing outstanding, because the principle of efficiency - one of the most important financial psychology. And if we examine more closely the history of millionaires, we see that they just did. The point of the report they had another. Let it become the other, and we have ...
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